Rav Avigdor Miller on Shalom Bayis Advice
Q:
What should a wife do if her husband is never happy and satisfied with her?

A:
So, I’ll turn back the pages of my old book and I’ll repeat some advice. First of all, she should fulfill the sage council that I said here years ago: “Keep your mouth closed and smell good.” I once met a man – he gave me a lift in his car. He was riding with his wife and he gave me a lift. “You know,” he said, “My wife once heard you speak – when you gave that advice – and she’s fulfilling 50% of that.”

Now, if people would only follow the dictates of common sense – women have to know that it’s important to put up a good appearance. Woman should spend time on their appearance, that’s number one. And secondly, they should keep their mouth closed as much as possible.

Now, if a husband despite that is not satisfied, you should know that he is a native crank and nothing will help. And so, you’ll have to live out your life and bear it. You’ll get Olam Habah for tolerating him.

But I don’t believe that this will be the result. I’m sure if one party makes a big effort, then the other party will respond. It’s only because two parties engage in the quarrel — it always takes two to make a machlokes. And if one makes a real concerted effort, then it’s certain that the other party will be influenced.